Learning from our life themes

Have you noticed that life is constantly asking you to grow as a person? I’ve noticed this. I noticed in the last week that my husband kept mentioning to me that I was too nice. He said it a few times over a week’s time. Then my friend said it to me. I have two responses to them.

My first response:

My first response is being open to the feedback. “I know, you are right, I’ve heard that my whole life,” I tell them. You think that you’ve made progress in an area and then you hear that you are still “too nice.” I realize that doesn’t take away from the fact that I have still made a lot of progress in this area. It just means maybe that I have more work to do to evolve and grow in this area. What can I learn? How can I grow? Do I think that I am too nice?

My second response:

My second response is more of a defensive response. I don’t necessarily think that either response is wrong. Hear me out. Yes, I am a nice person. “Accept me for who I am,” I want to tell everyone. This is authentically who I am. Take me for me. Aren’t I good enough how I am? Why are you criticizing me?